How To Intimidate People: If I Can Do It, You Can Do it, and It’s Fun

You can intimidate almost anybody because you can make sure they don’t have a chance to intimidate you back. If you have to yell at somebody, you can be more intimidating than the person yelling at you. Case in point, the security guard company I interviewed at last year-I intimidated him by telling him he was using favoritism with the guy who showed up late just like me. But he screamed at me because I yelled at him back not to mistreat me by showing favoritism. I saw many complaints about this company online when I got home.

For a tall person to get yelled at by somebody smaller, for him to even feel intimidated by lil’o ’ me, that would shame this guy who took his pride in being able to push people around as a security guard. I did contact human resources immediately after this altercation because the second I said that I had a B.A. in creative writing, this guy made me get up and leave. He didn’t react to me with one second of normal. He was odd. He was breathing hard in his chair, practically wheezing/sighing.

I complained to the company about him. But well, they didn’t seem surprised or inclined to help me further even if he had embarrassed them with his unprofessional and outright weird behavior. Bullies want you to feel their behavior is your fault, this is also common with emotional or psychological abuse. Victims of such abuse often walk around saying, “It’s my fault,” when in fact, the abuser is trying to make it look like it was their victim’s fault. The truth is, I have discovered that abusers enjoy making their victims feel the need to apologize all the time long after they have probably, escaped their attacker.

Bullies want to intimidate you, and that is why you have to intimidate them back. They are intimidated by honest as well. The bully doesn’t think that honesty is a plus. They lie a lot because lying is part of their bullying scenario. Bullies are all mean in the end because they live to bring their victim down. Sometimes, mere presence intimidates bullies. As in, they thought they had scared you away, but you stayed put. You entered that classroom or boardroom. They quit intimidating you.

I was bullied in a support group. It was a 12-step group as I have been in several due to my addiction problems that I’ve finally let go of, I was bullied by somebody with hostility problems that she eventually didn’t have so many of once I got to know her. I had to work very hard on my own problems, in particular, my anxiety. I told the hostile person that “there is no need for your hostility” at some point because I caught her in the act once. She then moved her group to her hometown, and we found common ground discussing the gym we both went to, in her case, before she met me.

The thing is, bullies pick on people they perceive as “different.” Then again I have come to realize I’m not so different, sure I’m schizophrenic, but I’m not that different in the end, no matter how much I’ve been picked on, even by family. Intimidating somebody can occur when you are scaring them using a trait like “I’m from another country,” to take advantage of their fear that you are aware of. Putting a bully in their place feels good if you do it right, bad if you go below the belt without integrity, and is in general, necessary. Bullies do not often survive. Dishonest relational bullies are people I cannot be around, period. In the end, we all have to fight bullies, there may not be getting around this.