Narcissists are master brainwashers; they are good at what they do by using positivity to do it. They lather praise onto their target that they want to brainwash. They are pleasant while talking, so that the target gets lured into a sense of relaxation. People believe narcissists who say that they are being bullied, but not their target. In my family, the narcissists have a paranormal flair to their brainwashing. The big difference with that is well, a psychic narcissist knows exactly what to say to brainwash someone. I saw this when my family said that “I need you to believe her hair is messy,” which worked instantly on the person she was saying that to. I can do this if I want to but I choose not to.
Workaholism is a real addiction. I struggle with mine because I think I have to work from home in order to be somebody to my parents. Overwork is the number one cause of stress, but in the hereafter, the Gods do not care about how much you overworked but rather how good of a person you were to yourself, as well as others. Workaholism is something that drives people to complete tasks because they feel inadequate about who they are. My own sense of inadequacy is what compels me to work.
I didn’t know there are support groups with other workaholics, as well as family therapy. America has a cultural focus on overachieving, and I somehow put myself through this. I need more spiritual counseling than I’m getting, that’s for sure. I’m guiding myself out of the tendency to overwork. Workaholism is a huge struggle for many people, and I have seen my family demand this of themselves and of me. I now no longer feel compelled to overwork as though I’m not a good person if I don’t overwork. I’m just relieved my family is stuck where they are and can’t come back.
Successful Treatment for Workaholics Starts with Thinking Beyond the Work
I quit drinking because I recognized that it was bad for me, and doing me serious harm. I realized I needed to be on medication, not self-medicating, because my family was manipulating me into doing something wrong for me anyway. I quit drinking-which was met with ridicule but I did that to screw them over. Not drinking is healthier than drinking myself to death with a high tolerance, and that is what I was doing. In my 20s, I was following their rules, exactly, much to my own detriment. I was following their rules, rather than getting stable because when I turned 18, I was like, wow, I can get SSI/meds now. Of course, I was talked out of it.
I have anxiety about spending money, because I fear having money in the first place. I don’t want an empty life spending money on clothing and nothing else. I have trouble spending money on myself. I’m actually scared of spending money on myself. I feel I should put myself in mental health rehab treatment at Bridges to Recovery, in Los Angeles. I feel a strong need to get treatment but I can’t afford it. In order to begin to remotely treat everything I’m dealing with, I need mental health rehab at that organization. I want to make money so I can put myself in their hands. My anxiety is something I can cope with but I’m half-assed about it. I need to deal with it better.
I have job-getting anxiety because so many people do not get back to me. I fear my disability, which isn’t so bad, will prevent me from getting a job? Is that a family fear I’m absorbing? I didn’t know being anxious about money is an actual condition? I fear having a job, because I fear family ruling me incompetent by ganging up on me, demanding my money and stripping me of that responsibility. Of course, there are legal options if they try to do this to me. I’m not giving family a dime of my money, period, since they refuse to give me money, why should I give them any if they do not take interest in me as a person?
I have an unhealthy level of anxiety surrounding the having of money. Not that I mismanage it, I don’t anymore. I’m trying to save money here, by not getting fixated on my view that having money is sinful. I view having less money as being unselfish. But then again I need to be making more money for various projects I have that haven’t gotten started yet like getting a garden together. Having money causes me stress, and I was plenty freaked out about the stimulus check.
What I fear is being manipulated out of having money by my family, that’s what. I feel that the second I make significant income they will swoop in like the nasty vultures they are who do not read any of my Internet articles, or blog. Yes, in fact, they all ignore me because I do not drink anymore. I have money anxiety from stressing about spending money; I have credit card debt I’m working on. I need to look for a part-time gig in the writing field just so I can use my BA in creative writing.
I do not talk about money with family, if they aren’t going to have an honest discussion, then why should I reveal my own status to them? My money, and my health problems are none of my families’ business. I work too much as it is, because I want to prove I’m productive. But that is yet another stress trap I do not want to over do. The article gives four steps to deal with the money anxiety.
The first step is to understand the problem of money anxiety. If you plan your finances ahead of time, you will have less stress about meeting your financial goals. Getting too OCD about saving money is something this article warns causes stress. Planning is the key to managing your debt, which I have been doing. The fourth step in managing financial anxiety is to give your mental space a rest. Feeling lost comes from not understanding where you are going financially as talking about financial worries might help you unburden yourself but in my family, since I don’t trust anybody, I don’t talk to them.
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